We often speak of ADHD as an attention deficit disorder — a child who can’t sit still, who disconnects, forgets things, gets scattered.
But what if, before struggling to give attention, this child had first and foremost lacked… received attention?
Not a lack of love. Not a lack of goodwill. But a lack of true presence — of being seen, felt, emotionally and mentally available.
I’m struck by how, in more than 90% of the sessions where I receive a parent and child together, the parent pulls out their phone within the first two minutes. Out of habit. Out of stress. Out of the urge to juggle a thousand things at once. And I don’t blame anyone — we live in a world of perpetual distraction.
But the child, feels everything. They sense when we’re truly there… and when we’re not.
They can’t distinguish between physical and emotional absence.
And so, their emotional world records:
“I’m not important enough for someone’s full attention.”
And in this invisible, yet foundational reality, the child’s subconscious will mirror what it perceives. Out of unconscious loyalty, it replicates that absence: the disconnection, the lack of grounding, the scattered focus.
And we may end up calling it… ADHD.
The most surprising part is this mechanism can even be transgenerational.
A parent who was never truly seen as a child may find it harder to offer consistent presence to their own child.
It’s a cycle. But the good news? It can be transformed.
So instead of asking the child to “pay attention,”
Let’s begin by paying attention to them.
Not to do, but to be. Not to distract, but to connect.
Let’s look at them. Listen.
Sit next to them, in our role as parent — grounded, even for two minutes, fully present.
Because a child who receives true presence learns to offer it to themselves.
And slowly finds their way back to their own inner alignment.
In kinesiology, hypnotherapy, or through the integration of primitive reflexes, I support these children — and their parents — in releasing unconscious patterns, reconnecting deeply, and rebuilding inner safety.
What if this “disorder” was simply a deep invitation for us, adults,
to return to being fully present?
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